Updated: Jan 18
Moms are getting more things done faster than ever, which is exactly why we need more self-care.
Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. — Theodore Roosevelt
This is one of my favorite quotes. And it most certainly rings true for me as a working mama during the ninth month of the pandemic.
As I write this, I realize that there are many mamas who are pregnant or who gave birth for the first time during these last nine months. There are also many moms who are working at home, overseeing remote learning schedules and in the thick of managing many of the other daily details of life.
Today’s moms are being asked to do more than ever. The growing mountain of to-dos we collect is exhausting. Checked one thing off? Here are three more.
What can help disrupt this overwhelming cycle of too much to do, especially when so many people depend on us?
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Moms are often given the superhuman label because of the volume of things we do, but is it because that’s what others expect of us? And do we fuel this expectation by doing more? Is it because we have our own high standards and demands of ourselves?
We are enough.
What you’re doing is enough, who you were in the past is enough, who you are in this moment is enough and who you’re becoming is enough.
We are human. We need rest, sleep, nourishment. We need self-care. We don’t need to “earn” self-care or to let others give us permission to care for ourselves. Our well-being depends on our own awareness that we matter, too. And if we don’t give ourselves what we need, who will?
Our wellness is in our own hands—the same hands that snuggle our kids, change their diapers, pack lunches, sign school forms, type emails, text friends, upload to social media.
So go ahead and feel accomplished by crossing one thing off your list today and saving the rest for another day. Go ahead and ask for help. Go ahead and give yourself a day off. (Does that even happen IRL?) Go ahead and give yourself permission to dream and to be inspired and to be creative.
Your self-care matters just as much as everyone else’s self-care. Stand up for your self-care, mama.
Practice It: Mantra: “Just Because I Can, Doesn’t Mean I Should”
This mantra popped into my mind recently in the middle of a busy weekday. Since then, I've had a renewed clarity that not everything I think needs to get done actually needs to get done or needs to get done right now.
I can choose to become aware that what I’m doing is enough. I can respond to one more email or I can log off for the day. I can read one more article or I can go to bed. I can take that phone call or I can eat my lunch.
I can take responsibility for my decisions, and that’s empowering.
Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.